How to Help Kids with Anger and Blaming?

Children can not only lose the temperament, but they can also blame others for anything that goes wrong in their life. Though experts call this normal part of growing up, however, if this habit is not managed it can show immense implications for their future. For instance, if you see children fighting over power wheel and blaming the other for injuries, it may be the time for you to take it seriously. That being said, some of the children manage to get over this tendency, however, it cannot be applied to all children.

Despite the various examples of anger issues in humans and how it can be present in kids, one cannot attempt to normalize it. Therefore, if you notice the signs of distress or irritation in your child, you should consult a specialist or take the required steps to address the main cause or driver of the sentiments. If you do not know the signs, you can start by paying attention to the child. The habit of blaming other siblings is another sign that may indicate a problem.

It has been seen that children who fight or blame others get carried away or overwhelmed with negative sentiments and their mind stops functioning like it should. As a result, they do irrational things to hurt the other person or make them the cause of troubles. Some of the children can become offensive in terms of attacking the children or parents. Hence, the parents can make efforts to distract the child in terms of engaging in some task or taking them along to do grocery shopping.

Being upset about things is another cause of putting blame on others, especially when it comes to the children, as they lack the emotional clarity to deal with difficult situations. For instance, if this behavior is compared with adults, children struggle to hide emotions or show intolerance to difference. Therefore, parents can apply new strategies to make the children better at it and to assist them in hard or testing times.

Moreover, the ability of the children to work on the behavior responsibly is relatively weak due to the developing stage of the cortex. But the below-mentioned tips may help you.


If parents can show calm attitude, it may help to soothe the child. The main point is that your child may not be able to control, but your role in a specific situation can change the situation to a large extent.


If the child expresses a feeling to you, try to walk in the shoes of the children and understand it and show support in form of your changed behavior. For example, the child may be feeling insecurity or attention deprivation due to the addition of another baby in the house. And the job of parents is to into account the concerns of children. Similarly, if you can give time to the child and be supportive, it may help as well.

Avoid Fighting

If the child gets angry, remember it is the reaction and if you also respond with hostility or anger, the situation can escalate. Moreover, if you respond to the child in a calm tone, you may set the mild tone of the interaction, which may help to contain the anger of the child. Moreover, if you feel upset or hurt, you can express it later or rather than mentioning it right away. If the cause of the anger is related to siblings, you can help the children to address the problems in the right manner.


If you think that the child is old enough to take the responsibility for actions, you can facilitate the child in achieving that and by underlining the ignored aspects. There are many techniques that may make it easy for you to show the child how damaging it can be to blame all the mistakes on others. Moreover, the lessons of playing victims can also guide the child in viewing the situation differently. In addition, if you depict the values in your characters and actions, it can make the children change their minds.


Another best strategy of helping the children is to teach them various ways of making amends. For instance, if the child has hurt the feelings of a siblings, teach them the value of apology and a stress on not repeating the same pattern. Similarly, if one of the parents is upset, the child can make a breakfast or do something nice to make the day and to patch things up.  The main goal is to teach them how relationships can be fixed if proper care and attention are given. In this regard, the example of fights between parents can be helpful in terms of teaching the best ways to sort the differences. However, if you cannot resolve the issues with your partners peacefully, you child may also struggle with it.

Being Thoughtful

Children have the healing power but if they are not thoughtful or careful with the way they conduct relations, the relationship may suffer the negative consequences. However, if you have raised the kids to be thoughtful, it can help to manage the fights between siblings to a large extent. For instance, if the younger sibling shows respect and politeness, the older one will also make an effort to get along with the younger one. Hence, the right set of values can work like magic.

To put simply, children are likely to go through the growing phases, but if they put the blame on others, it may happen with you too. For example, the child may blame you for his/her mistakes. Therefore, if you teach the children a sense of responsibility and benefit of being kind to each other, the common problems can be curtailed. Moreover, the role of parents being the supportive and mature one in the relationship dynamics is another crucial key. Therefore, parents will have to show high levels of tolerance and patience to help the children in dealing with temperamental issues and the tendency to blame others.

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